Aligning with your unique balance of masculine and feminine energy is the foundation for feeling fulfilled.
Through hustle culture, our conditioned upbringing, and even societal norms- I've found that sometimes the wires around our true needs, desires, and values have been crossed or overridden by external pressure, causing us to feel confused, discontent and disconnected.
relationship is the core foundation of our sense of belonging.
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My goal is for you to gain a deeper understanding of your feminine and masculine energy, and learn how to balance these energies in a way that is aligned and in service of creating the life you desire.
From personal experience, I learned that this piece of knowledge is the foundation for feeling seen. fulfilled and content in all areas of your unique life. To me, ever since I was little - I dreamt of creating a partnership and experiencing the joy of receiving and giving love where I felt like my most authentic self. I honestly didn’t know if it was in the cards for me - I spent my late teens, 20’s and early 30’s with toxic eating behaviors that kept me feeling unworthy, confused and guarded around love. As a result, I invested too much in the wrong relationships leaving me feeling even worse.
It was when I took an honest look at myself and admitted these behaviors had deep roots in the well intentioned but toxic relationship dynamics I was behaving from - and thus continually finding myself feeling unseen and unloved - that the shift happened for me. I actually felt the possibility and deservedness to experience the life that lives in my heart.
My goal is for your to feel that same deservedness.
Hi! I'm Alana.
For years, I've observed women living out of balance.
The most common symptoms of misaligned energy are...
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Feeling unseen in relationships, causing you to feel misunderstood, disrespected, or neglected.
02
Overfunctioning in relationships. You feel responsible to make everything happen and take care of everyone. This might feel like difficulty receiving support, causing you to feel depleted and fatigued.
03
Anxiety and feelings insecurity, which might manifest as neediness, paranoia, self-pity, and even insomnia.
04
Feelings of entitlement, which might look like lack of curiosity about other people, and demanding or passive aggressive communication.
the moment it all shifted for me...
It became crystal clear my conflict ridden relationships were the mirror
My behavior was reflecting the ways I was unloving and unseeing myself and unlearning and re-patterning these beliefs and behaviors is the hardest work I have ever done (and continue to do daily).
For me, relationship is the core foundation of our sense of belonging. The relationships with ourselves first and foremost — and then the relationships we create with others. To understand , accept and express ourselves from an empowered truth - in alignment with our values and needs is the deep work I feel has integrated for me this year and I am so grateful.
We all have feminine and masculine energies within us. These energies are not gender dependent.
Masculine energy:
values success
loves making things happen
prioritizes achievement
feels seen by providing and protecting others
Female energy:
values connection
loves feeling respected and understood
prioritizes creativity and collaboration
feeling ease and groundedness
When you visualize a pilot, you can easily see someone who is at the helm of any situation, taking control, executing, and making people feel safe.
The pilot is executing on ideas and thinking about and planning for the future. The pilot is in control, managing, and handling logistics. They love feeling successful and to protect and provide for those they care about..
The shadows of this archetype are that you might find yourself fatigued and overtired and depleted from time to time.
When you visualize the feeler, you might see someone who brings a soft, warm, and bright energy to every situation. They thrive on spontaneity and feel oppressed by rigidity.
The feeler is motivated by intuition and feeling relaxed in all areas of life. Both at work and at home, they enjoy being in the presence of a strong leader where they can provide support through their skills of empathy and creativity. Being in flow and feeling good is their highest priority.
The shadows of this archetype are that from time to time, they might feel anxious, needy, or paranoid, judgmental and may have trouble sleeping. On their bad days, they might feel unworthy of their dreams.
Our Core Energies Can Be Expressed in Four Ways:
The Pilot
The Feeler
ARchetype 1
masculine dominant energy
archetype 2
feminine dominant
When you visualize an organizer, you envision someone who prioritizes efficiency, planning, and values providing structure, fun, and reliability to loved ones.
At work, the organizer feels totally at home taking direction, knowing what their expectations are, and trusting they will bring value to whatever project they are a part of. In their relationship, they like being responsible for the logistics that make life fun, making plans for trips, doing research, coming up with unique things to do, and making the schedule.
The shadows of this archetype are resentment, feeling under appreciated and shutting down. This could come up when they feel stretched too thin and their communication style can become curt and aggressive and hurtful even though that is not their intention.
The Organizer
archetype 4
feminine/masculine hybrid
When you visualize a curator, you see someone who observes and takes in their surroundings in service of creating a space and a feeling that is harmonious and aligned. They are discerning and open minded, and can make decisions easily.
At work, the curator love feeling successful, and gets value from providing for themselves. They like being valued for intelligence and smarts. They love feeling motivated and a sense of achievement.
At home, they enjoy a collaborative partnership where they can receive options and provide their preference. Feeling safe and taken care of are core needs for this archetype.
The shadows of this archetype are that they might find themselves slipping into states of entitlement and self-righteousness. They might experience a lack of curiosity, and may become demanding, withholding, and passive aggressive.
The Curator
archetype 3
masculine/feminine Hybrid
"Alana is a modern day miracle worker."
I was first introduced to Alana’s teachings about a year ago. I was immediately taken by her calm and centered approach to holistic wellness — speaking about topics that were new to me, such as the connections between overeating and overfunctioning, balancing energies, and how women in this day and age are overtaken with hustle culture. I was able to clearly see the patterns in my own life that were out of balance, and felt like I had new language to help me articulate what had been so wrong for so long. Since working together, Alana has taught me so much and I can honestly say my relationships are better, I’m more conscious of my behavioral eating patterns, and I look forward to her content every day. She is truly a modern day miracle worker.
— Alexa Cawley
business owner
New York, NY
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Through identification and awareness of your energetic archetype, you'll begin to...
Feeling a deeper connection to your life, and more excitement for what's to come
Decreased inflammation, resulting in balanced hormones, deeper sleep, and less weight fluctutation
Feel more clarity, confidence, and self-assuredness in your decisions
Have energy to embrace to the right opportunities for you that will leave you feeling fulfilled
Feel more ease around dating and creating intimate relationships
Feel a greater sense of self-esteem